When a teen need to be different meets the world wide web, and what us adults can do about it. Disclaimer: If you just want solutions and don’t require a lot of context to sus out if this is written in good faith, feel free to start at the paragraph above the final image. It seems now more than ever, society is grappling with how to deal with self-identification. Not…

For people who don’t fully read. — “I have breasts, and if I lactate, they will be feeding. That’s it. I am happy that I have breasts that can do such things. To each their own, and to my own, I have breasts.” This was my caption when I reposted the image below. My inital comments on…

You might be struggling with emotional immaturity & this can help. — Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who wore a listening appearance, but wasn’t quite receiving? I don’t mean because they were on the phone, part-time “mhmm”-ing at your pauses. I’m talking a conversation wherein you were attempting to express how this supposed-to-be-listener had some negative impact, and…

An open letter from an imperfect ally. — Dear Queer Black folks who have been targeted, hurt, and isolated within our Diaspora, I am sorry. I’m sorry that so many of us don’t see your blackness and queerness in harmony within you. I’m sorry that some of us dissect you and make your body our business. That when…

Then I remind myself, acceptance is an act of love. I was eagerly awaiting the Facebook notification for Black Men Meet: Brotherhood Beyond Blood when every video my partner ever uploaded or went live with popped up under his name. Curiously I scrolled, looking for fond memories, music I love…

Let me explain what I mean. It came to me in a powerful weekly co-counseling session as I supported a Sistar in feeling all the grief feels over the unexpected death of superstar Chadwick Boseman. If you somehow, by this point don’t know who he is, I don’t know how…